Life is full of surprises. For much of my career, I found comfort in the precision of numbers as a bookkeeper. My days revolved around spreadsheets and the order they provided. However, in the second half of my life, I transitioned to a new path: becoming an End-of-life Doula, Funeral Director and Celebrant.
This shift began with the sudden death of my mum. Her death left a profound void and many unanswered questions, prompting me to explore death more deeply—not as something morbid but as a natural part of life. I began reading extensively about death and dying and soon discovered the role of a death doula. This non-medical professional provides emotional, spiritual, and practical support to those facing death, which resonated deeply with me. I realised that this role could combine my organisational skills with a newfound passion for helping people navigate death more comfortably.
My formal training began with a program led by Zenith Virago, a renowned ‘Deathwalker’. This training equipped me with the knowledge and skills needed to navigate the emotional and practical aspects of end-of-life care. I also participated in many other educational opportunities, which helped broaden my understanding of the diverse needs of those facing death.
What I learnt from my training was the importance of communication. In end-of-life situations, what is said and how it is said can have a profound impact on everyone involved. This often includes having tender conversations, which are essential for providing the right support during such a vulnerable time.
Despite initial doubts about my background in accounting, I realised that my organisational skills and attention to detail were valuable assets in death support. The desire to alleviate the fear and confusion associated with death kept me motivated, and now, I am incredibly grateful for the journey. I love my work!
In my different roles of Funeral Director, Celebrant and Death Doula, I encounter many wonderful individuals and families at various stages of their end-of-life journeys. Some need guidance in navigating complex healthcare decisions or advanced care directives, while others require help with practicalities like funeral arrangements. Often, people simply need someone to listen as they process their grief.
Surprisingly, the skills I developed as a bookkeeper have been incredibly useful. The organisational skills and meticulous attention to detail required for paperwork, arrangements, and finding appropriate resources have been invaluable. Beyond these skills, I have discovered a previously unrecognised ability to listen and connect with people, offering support without judgment.
One of the most rewarding aspects of my work is witnessing the transformation that occurs when families are empowered to face death openly. I have seen families reconcile long-standing conflicts, mend fractured relationships, and create lasting memories even in the face of loss.
This work is about ensuring a peaceful, dignified death that reflects the individual’s wishes. This unexpected career change has given my life incredible meaning and purpose.
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